If you've been struggling to find a hot woman to date and hook up with, then you've been going about it the wrong way. Lucky for you, you've now come to the right place. Provided you pay keen attention to the information you're given, you should be able to turn your situation around. There's no reason for you to think that you are hopeless, even if your attempts are seeing less success than Argentina at the World Cup.
It doesn't matter what walks of life are what locations women come from. As far as finding a desirable man goes, certain checkboxes need to be ticked for girls. Your goal is to have everything in order, to make the whole situation that much easier.
Hookup Apps & Hookup Sites
It would be best if you were open to the possibility of picking up girls using these apps. While you may not believe it yet, going this route is much safer than the traditional one. Do you want to know why?
Imagine walking into a restaurant and seeing 20 beautiful women sitting by themselves. While this situation is improbable, imagine that they are also all single. Now, one of these women is willing to engage in a one night stand. Your job is the pick out and strike up a conversation with her. How are you going to do that?
The truth is, you can't. You wouldn't know enough about any of the girls to pull off such a feat reliably. Now, consider the girls who created profiles on hookup apps and hookup sites. If you want to catch a bus, you go to a bus stop. If you're going to see animals, you go to a zoo. Therefore, if your desire is the have a one-time sexual encounter with a hot stranger, you use a hookup app.
By being on these platforms, the women have already indicated that they are down to do the dirty deeds. The discovery work has already been done for you, and all you need to do is say something.
if you want to get these girls into the bedroom successfully, follow these simple steps:
- Locate the profile of a girl who interests you.
- Use whatever matching or following mechanism is on the site to get to the talking phase.
- Always open with something witty or funny. Do not start with a basic greeting.
- Never send messages for the sake of sending messages. If you don't have a purpose, the conversation is going to go flat.
- While you should remain respectful, remember you're on a hookup app. You don't need to beat around the Bush is to find out if she's down. It's open season on that kind of conversation.
- Listen to what she's saying and don't just talk. You are not getting in between those cheeks if she doesn't feel like it's something she wants too.
- The objective is to meet and get laid. So, while you can listen to her talk about the new plant she got, don't dwell there. Steer the conversation where you want it to go without shutting her up or being too forceful.
Pick Up Girls
Your chances of picking up women depend on some crucial factors. Chief among them is the matter of context. Even the same woman can be straightforward to pick up in some contexts, while she is unbelievably hard in others.
Much of being able to get her interested in you is learning to read the room properly. If you're at an event, such as a party, or you're at a bar, you may find that the girls are a lot more open and less likely to try to give you a hard time actively.
It would be best to get a girl to be relaxed before, so a conversation can flow. That's the whole point with the contrasting contexts of a club versus a store, for example. There's a heightened level of relaxation in highly social situations that are based on entertainment and fun. So, even if a girl isn't usually the most open-minded person on the planet, that can change based on the context.
Your job is to combine confidence and good conversation to create a calm feeling in a girl. One she doesn't feel like she must protect herself from anything, you don't have much to worry about. Honesty is an acceptable policy, but if the only thing you want is some sex, at no point should your words or actions communicate that.
It's not about going at your pace and what makes you comfortable, as there is a whole other person who is now a part of the situation. Be confident but polite, and don't be afraid to throw in some humor to make her laugh.
If you're going the dating route, the whole experience is supposed to lead to having some fun while learning about each other. It's always nice to build familiarity by going on dates, as it helps to confirm or deny your compatibility. Just don't ignore the red flags because she's good looking.
If you play your cards right in the dating arena, everything else flows into place, assuming you bothered to listen to everything that she says. Looking for places to go shouldn't be too much of a tour, regardless of where you are. Don't overthink the venue part of the decision, as you can mess things up that way.
The focal point is on you and her spending time together, regardless of what that may look like. Unless it's a surprise, you can discuss the activities beforehand to make sure that you are both interested.
If you have any neat hobbies, such as biking, skiing, etc., feel free to give her a chance to have fun the way you do. Similarly, you need to provide her with the opportunity to express what she likes and incorporate her ideas into the equation. You get bonus points for making her feel like she has a voice, so don't squander them.
Even with all this in mind, you need to find the girl before you can do anything. Here are some of the best online alternatives for that purpose:
- OK Cupid
- International Cupid
- Plenty of fish
- Elite singles
Seducing a Woman
Seduction is an art, and if you have any hope of getting her into bed with you, you must master it. Commit the following steps to memory, to get her to feel what you want before she even realizes what is happening:
- Take advantage of proximity. This principle applies both physically and where knowing each other is concerned. You must learn about the person who you're trying to seduce. Don't try to do this in a hurry, as she is going to pick up that there is something off, and she is even likely to lose interest. You don't want to create feelings of distrust, discomfort, or thirst. The last one is even more dangerous than you may think, as you can make her bored very quickly.
- Be an enjoyable person without being fake. You don't need to put on a theoretical Superman outfit to make her like you. All you need to do is talk to her and treat her like a human being. You can express the things you like and how you want to do them, and you can give her the chance to do the same. Finding common ground also helps, as shared experiences created strong bonds.
- Engage her at late hours. Doing this does not mean only going out with her when it gets late. Even if she is a booty call, she should know that she's a booty call. What you should be doing is texting and calling her late at night. You can ease her into this by starting with calling earlier in the night. If you can get her talking enough, it's going to be the late-night before she knows it, and just like that, she's gotten comfortable with the idea. Don't go straight for this dirty stuff initially, as you are likely to turn her off. You can skip around it by being mildly flirty and upping the ante every time she begins to respond in kind.
- Try not to be too obviously into her, even if you are. As weird as this sounds, mixed signals can be beneficial. When you wonder if a girl likes you, don't you feel intrigued to find out? You can achieve the same thing by seeming into her and flirty sometimes, and being a different person at other times. Save the late-night conversations for the sexier side to come out, an act as if those chats never happened during the day.
- If you are spending time talking to each other and finding out about each other, there is some interest level. Therefore, you don't need to tell her that you have feelings for her outrightly. Dropping hints is sufficient, so that she doesn't feel as if you are wasting her time. However, it's her curiosity that sparks her desire.
- Break the barrier of personal space subtly. If you are ever alone with her, get close while seeming oblivious about the whole thing. Put your acting face on, and make it seem as if you didn't notice the proximity. You can slightly touch her as you laugh together or exchange certain words and see how she responds. You are likely to find that she is comfortable with your touch. Stay away from inappropriate areas for now.
- Though you shouldn't overdo it, make sure she gets you in regular enough doses to remember you're there, but not too much to feel fulfilled. The more she wants you, the more she's going to try to see you. Eventually, you're going to be making out and doing a lot more than that.
As far as local encounters are concerned, you can still apply all the information you've been given so far. However, it would be best if you took precautions to protect yourself. As beautiful as she is, you can never rule out the darker possibilities. If you're going to hook up, ensure that you use protection. Sexiness isn't a shield from STD's and unwanted pregnancies. It's best to stay on the safe side, so you don't end up making a decision that ruins the rest of your life.
It's also advisable to use a location other than you are home. Remember that it's just a hookup, and you want to preserve some level of anonymity. You don't want to make a habit of bringing people you never plan to see again to your home. Hotels are key here, but you can use any mutually comfortable space as well.
How to Get Laid
The number one principle here is to not stick to the girl too much if all you want is to get laid. She should never feel like she is the center of attention because she's the only person you pay attention to. Women are very good at picking that up, which can lead you to spend a lot on her without ever getting the clap her cheeks.
If you want sex, stick to girls on hookup apps or those who you meet in places, such as nightclubs. It's also easier to pull this off with girls on the young adult side of the spectrum.
Hookups are predominantly done by singles who are looking to have some fun. Be that as it may, some people are in relationships and want a bit of extra fun on the side. You could be two different people in this situation. First, you could be the person who is doing the cheating. Alternatively, you could be the person who the girl is doing the cheating with. Note that these aren't mutually exclusive things since both of you could potentially have "happy" homes.
The key to secret affairs is the word secret. Don't even give her your real name if you don't have to. Some women want to know that there is someone else, and some won't give you the time of day if there is. Try to find out where she stands before making any reveal.
If she's not into people who already have someone, then it's best to keep your real relationship a secret. If she has no problem with it, then you can let her know about your girlfriend. In your case, it probably doesn't matter if she has someone else, so feel free to let her tell you if that's the case.
If you already have someone, don't leave any evidence hanging around, and try to meet up with this new "side piece" during times you'd be away anyways. The moment you start to disappear randomly is when you are setting yourself up for failure.
Casual sex is free from all attachments. Read that first sentence again as many times as you must, so you can get it through your head. You cannot properly engage in casual sex if you are holding on to feelings. Sometimes, you can't stop yourself from becoming attached to someone. If you find that happening, and you have no intention of maintaining anything but a casual relationship, it's best to stop having sex.
The best way to have a genuinely casual relationship is to pick a girl whom you find undesirable as a girlfriend. In other words, she is hot enough for you to bone, but her beliefs and other qualities make her unpleasant as a life partner. When you stick to those girls, you don't want anything else but the sex, which makes for a successful casual sex arrangement.
How to Get a Girlfriend
It's best to find a girlfriend on dating apps instead of those that exist just for hookups. Alternatively, you can meet a girl at a park, at any event, etc. Prepare yourself to go through the following phases with her:
- First, there's the courtship phase, in which you spend as much time as you can finding out about her to become a couple. It's perfectly acceptable to go out with other people, but you both know that there is a mutual interest. Spend the time to learn about her in every way possible, as your interest and knowledge are your best assets.
- Next, there is the dating phase. It's best to focus on only her at this point. Try to spend time with her, and let her see that you are willing to be there for her without going overboard. Check up on her during the day to ensure that she is eating and taking care of herself. Be a listening ear when she's going through stuff, which lets her know that she can count on you.
- The relationship phase is next, and it usually starts with one person wanting to know what the situation is between both of you. She is likely to be that person in this equation, so you can ask her if she wishes to be with you, and allow things to flow once she confirms.